It’s a whirlwind of lies and vitriol out there right now, am I right? Social media sites spreading memes about the other party, the dangers of our world, the arrogance and wrongness of the side ‘opposite us’.
There’s something about fighting with someone online that can whip us up into an adrenaline laced mania. Maybe it’s the anonymity. Maybe it’s the conviction we have in our own righteousness, the hard line we draw against any challenge to our perceptions.
And when you try to disengage you are still frowned upon. If you don’t stand up for what you believe, you’re in danger of being part of the problem. That is true to some extent. But there’s something to be said for the deep-breath pause that begs us to consider if the argument we’re forming is going to change any minds or just throw gasoline on the fire.
All of this made me think of the world, and what we contribute. What we give to it.
So often we give our opinion, we give our hatred, we give our disapproval and judgments. We give our anger and our raised voices. So we give. But we give things that hurt our humanity, often, without making worthwhile differences.
I’m not judging. It feels good to vent.
It also feels good to do heroin, I’m told. Doesn’t mean it’s a good thing for us to do.
See what I’m getting at?
How about, just for today, you and I think about what we can give to the world that will lighten the dark?
Can you give your time?
Can you give an open mind and a willing ear?
Can you give forgiveness that you’ve been holding back?
Give to your charity. Give full un-technology distracted attention to your children. Give your boss a break. Give your smile, even when you haven’t been able to in a while.
Sometimes, I think we feel if we give these things (our love, compassion, forgiveness, time, etc.) then we will have none left for ourselves.
But just like the worry that comes with a second child, (how could we possibly love another as much, when we love the first so ardently?) we quickly learn that love doesn’t subtract or divide.
The more you forgive…the more forgiveness you will want to give (you’ll find the lightening of your heart is such sweet reward).
The more you love…the more you want to love.
The more you listen…the more you learn…the more you learn, the more compassion you give…and the more you feel it in and for yourself.
And you spread light, you lighten sadness, and lightening of sadness drives away the haze of hatred that’s settled over us all.
You may not get it back 100% of the time, that’s ok…because that’s not the reason we give.
We give because we can.
We share our light to push the darkness back from one other.
If it comes back, it fills our cup to do it again.
So this isn’t a rocket-science, grand-idea blog today.
This is a remember blog.
Remember, human. You are a force to be reckoned with with both great and terrible results. You’ve a light inside. And you can guard it with closed arms and gnashing teeth, suffocating its power inside for yourself alone. Or you can open your arms to the dark, and let your light spill across the vastness.
The night is dark and full of terrors. But we’re pretty terrifying too. Beautifully terrifying.
And the darkness won’t ever leave if we do not light it up.
So light it up.